Ever since Scott and I started talking about getting married, I've been reading books about marriage. I believe in educating yourself about big decisions. And for me, education usually comes in the form of books. I really enjoyed Elizabeth Weil's chronicle of her project to to make her marriage better.
What she discovered through self-examination and through reading everything she could get her hands on, was that marriages are as individual as the people in them. There are a million ways to make them work. And a million ways to make them not work. I particularly liked her descriptions of her husband's culinary efforts and the times when he seems to her to be cooler than her (her insecurities, not his). Her honesty about their monetary struggles is refreshing and makes for an interesting read.
As Scott and I embark on our marriage, I'd like to remember all the ways there are many to make it work and that the important thing is the commitment to finding the way that works for you.